break up and boundary healing – Dear Miss Reckoning,

🔥 A Reckoning Non-Advice Letter 💌

✨ Even when your ex looks best with that door shut behind him 🚪, you’re left holding on—memories of him calling himself “the prize” 🎁, pictures of his new girlfriend, and a desperate need to get over him.

✨ This letter cuts through his curated smiles and reveals the truth: he hasn’t changed.

✨ Instead, we offer a glittering dose of clarity, healing—and just enough salt 🧂 and hope ❤️ to add to your popcorn 🍿.

✨ Because he’s all drama and stress in a never-ending bad stage performance—and now you get to watch from the audience. Or leave the theater entirely (i.e. block… my choice).

💌 Dear Miss Reckoning,

How do I stop caring about my ex?

He used to make me feel awful. He called himself “the prize.” One time he yelled at me in front of my friends and said I was being too emotional for even bringing it up later.

Now he’s posting vacation pictures with his new girlfriend. He looks happy. I feel stuck.

Is it normal to still care?

I feel like I’ll never get over him.

— Just Want to Move On

🪞 Dear Just Want to Move On,

Here’s the good news. ✨

He’s gone. 🚪

Anyone who calls himself “the prize” is completely delusional 🙄. Yelling and embarrassing you in front of your friends just one time is enough to dump and block him completely 🚫.

However, I know it’s hard 💔. You care about him, you might’ve loved him. You emotionally spun yourself around him, and it’s hard to untangle yourself 🧵.

We’ll never know what’s going on in his head 🧠. But I can tell from your letter that you cared deeply and genuinely 🫶. It sounds like this guy did not deserve it.

And here’s the bonus good-ish news 💁‍♀️: he’s probably still an awful person who will never be on your level 📉. It takes years of therapy to become a better person, and I can almost guarantee this guy did not do that work.

You can rest assured that they look happy in the picture 📸, but behind closed doors, he’s treating that lady exactly how he treated you—same mask 🎭, same script 📖, same jokes 🙃, same ending. It’s all he knows.

You are strong 💪 because it sounds like you want to stop caring about him. You will make it through this ⛅️.

In reality, you are the prize 👑. But that’s not something you even need to say out loud because secure people don’t actually say that out loud 🔇.

There are better people out there in the world who won’t yell at you 🌍. But when I went through something like this, I had to reckon with myself 🪞.

What was I searching for in toxic relationships? Why was I still repeating the same patterns? 🧩

I had to do my own work 🔧. I went to therapy 🪑. I took time alone. I hate the advice “become your own friend”. But I see what people mean by it. Find space in your own head that you enjoy. Be kind to yourself because we can’t control other people.

There are better people in the world. But taking time for yourself and your growth is never a bad thing 🌱.

So what should you do? 🤔

If you block him on everything 📵, you never have to see his fake smile again 😐. Sounds like an immediate win 🏆.

You are healing 🩹.

That picture? It burst open the wound 💥.

One day, reminders won’t feel like being sliced open 💔. The knife will dull until memories can’t cut you anymore.

For now, be thankful he is not in your life 🙌🏻.

Be proud of yourself for getting him out of your life, however it happened, whether it was your choice or his.

He’s gone—good 🎉.

Also know, you loved with an open heart ❤️‍🔥. His failings are not your failings 🚫.

You’re doing the work—this letter proves it 📝.

He could never swim out this far 🌊.

You’re already too deep for him 🧜‍♀️.

His surface level will only be smiling vacation pictures while he makes her miserable in private.

Your future is an open ocean without him 🐠🌊. And a lot of other, more vibrant fish 🐟✨.

Scorched, signed, sent,
🔥 🖋️ 💌

-Miss Reckoning

As always, your unqualified, non-professional, non-advice friend

Note from Miss:
I’ve sought a lot of professional help, and I’ve found it beneficial in my own recovery. Please always seek what you need from professional avenues.

But know, you’re never alone here. 💖